Each day we wake to a new day, for some people that is filled with the excitement of what is to come, while others have a sense of dread wondering what will happen as the day progresses.
Our emotions can cause us to go up and down like a roller coaster. Hmmmm……Do we have to be controlled by our emotions or can we do something about them?
Imagine seeing our emotions like waves on the ocean. Some days it may be flat, calm and the deepest blue color, while at other times the waves are crashing, and the ocean looks dark and menacing. The weather affects changes in the ocean, whereas our emotions change depending on situations with family or friends, stress/joy at work/school or just events around us in our environment.
So, like the waves, our emotions may be calm one moment, then be whipped up without much warning. We might be floating along feeling a happy emotion, then be swept up in anger or get dumped by a huge wave of sadness. One thing we know for sure is that emotions come and go, often much faster than the weather changes!
We don’t have to let our emotions take over our lives and hold us prisoner until something brings us some relief and joy again.
This is where we can make choice, we can either be controlled by our emotions OR we can learn how to manage our emotions, so they work for us. We can choose to let the feelings or emotions wash over us and learn to surf the big feelings, not letting them crush us, but taking control and riding the wave.
Our emotions communicate to and influence others around us. How many times have you known exactly what someone is feeling by looking at their body language, a grumpy face or serious expression? This influences the people around you.
Emotions get us ready to act and sometimes gives us clues about people and situations, we need to pay attention and tune into our emotions…………..they are here to help us: –
- Begin by taking time to think about how you are feeling emotionally, are you happy, sad, angry or scared. Trying to identify how you are feeling is a great way to tune in to yourself,
- Think about what that emotion is trying to tell you today, do you need a nap, or some food, to do a pleasant activity, to talk to someone, or find something to distract you?
- Remember these emotions will pass and be replaced with other ones, it might feel like this emotion is going to go on forever. Sadness and grief can last a long time especially if someone or something has passed away, this is a normal part of grieving.
- Now imagine being on the ocean riding the wave of emotion until the next wave comes along, try not to fight the emotion but recognize why it’s there for you and embrace it.
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Written by Sara Rosandich
Adapted from: Miller & Rathus & Lineham (1995;1999;2003;2006), and Lineham (1993)